We had our first family assessment meeting with our social worker, and it lasted over two hours. She asked direct questions and seemed really to hear us. After listening to us both discuss our views on trans-racial adoption, she made the call that Stan is ready for that, but Angie is not. For me (Angie), that was actually a load off because I've been feeling the pressure to make that decision. She didn't close the door by any means and recommended several books for us to read.
We have our home visit on Thursday, August 12. She'll meet with our pastor and then come over to the house to check for safety issues. Then we'll have individual interviews some time later in August. And then . . . and then . . . we'll be on the waiting list. Yeeehaaaw. She reminded us that we are not in competition with the other waiting families but rather that God has already planned the family he will create when we are "matched" with the birth parents. Bethany does not do the pairing; birth parents are shown profile books of the families that match their needs and desires. For example, our profile book (one we're making on Shutterfly) might be shown to Caucasian birth parents who want an open adoption and who have a family medical history that matches the list Stan and I agreed upon.
The road is a long one, but you've already covered a lot of distance! This is so exciting, but really drags on your patience. Hang in there because God has a terrific parental adventure just for you. I'm so happy for you and love hearing about all of the steps you are going through. You are on my prayer list! Love you!
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